The Coming Out

The Big deal in our life is to graduate and receive our masters or/and PHD and show our parents, and the society that we live in what we have become. The big deal is to shine just like a star in the sky in front of the people who either underestimated you or didn't think you could make it through.
But you work so that these specific people start look up to you, you come out to be a very successful person with lots of people around you who are either jealous of you or happy for you (I doubt that though).

But what if you are homosexual? You reach a phase where you have to come out to your family, your mother, father, sisters,and brothers... Some of the people I know have been there, mothers always know, fathers always reject, and sisters sometimes ignore and brothers are disgusted... But not always, in other cases the coming out goes smooth and we live happily ever after.

But what happens when the family rejects their children? Have you ever asked yourself this question? Those people who you have lived your whole childhood, teenage, and adolescence together will forgo you just because you are different, how do you feel? Another question that annoys is that: How are they able to forgo a part of the family, a part who has been there for the past twenty or twenty five years? Would they not be forgoing a part of a whole? A part that completes the puzzle? How can they do that without having second thoughts about it?

Usually the father and the brother do the "forgoing" step after the coming out, the mother softens and the sister weeps. Was not this kid a part of the father's life? And isn't this kid the fruit of his fatherhood attitudes? And again, doesn't this father have any kind of feelings towards his son that drive him to accept the fact that he is homosexual?

Lebanon my friends is the country of variety. People accept and others reject, people die because of wars and others go clubbing the night after...

But where do Homosexuals stand in the coming out process? Some of them get psychiatric help, others forget about it and hide it in front of the straight society, others go for it with whatever guts they have, and some just let it go and who ever finds out, finds out...

It is essential to realize that Lebanese families are still concerned about their social stance and economical levels, and other people's talks, religion, ethics and morals, which used to exist hundreds of years ago in Europe.

The coming out is crucial and hard but not impossible. What's needed is patience, because when you are a grown person whether a male or a female, and you are socially and economically independent you wouldn't mind being thrown out of the house, or being excluded from the family. You reach a psychological phase where you'd say: "Those who accept me, accept me, while those who don't, they just don't". No matter who these people were, you know that you can live without them if they can live without you. In order to come out, one should be emotionally and psychologically independent and is not related to anyone who might forgo her/him if they knew about their homosexuality.